Archive for February, 2011

Grrrrr…. Anger…..

We all know what anger is, and we’ve all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage.

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you’re at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.

Is It Good To “Let it All Hang Out?”

Psychologists now say that this is a dangerous myth. Some people use this theory as a license to hurt others. Research has found that “letting it rip” with anger actually escalates anger and aggression and does nothing to help you (or the person you’re angry with) resolve the situation.

It’s best to find out what it is that triggers your anger, and then to develop strategies to keep those triggers from tipping you over the edge.


Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings. There are books and courses that can teach you relaxation techniques, and once you learn the techniques, you can call upon them in any situation. If you are involved in a relationship where both partners are hot-tempered, it might be a good idea for both of you to learn these techniques.

Some simple steps you can try:

  • Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won’t relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your “gut.”
  • Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as “relax,” “take it easy.” Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.
  • Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination.
  • Nonstrenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.

Practice these techniques daily. Learn to use them automatically when you’re in a tense situation.


Some Other Tips for Easing Up on Yourself

Timing: If you and your spouse tend to fight when you discuss things at night—perhaps you’re tired, or distracted, or maybe it’s just habit—try changing the times when you talk about important matters so these talks don’t turn into arguments.

Avoidance: If your child’s chaotic room makes you furious every time you walk by it, shut the door. Don’t make yourself look at what infuriates you. Don’t say, “well, my child should clean up the room so I won’t have to be angry!” That’s not the point. The point is to keep yourself calm.

Finding alternatives: If your daily commute through traffic leaves you in a state of rage and frustration, give yourself a project—learn or map out a different route, one that’s less congested or more scenic. Or find another alternative, such as a bus or commuter train.

Do You Need Counseling?

If you feel that your anger is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counseling to learn how to handle it better. A psychologist or other licensed mental health professional can work with you in developing a range of techniques for changing your thinking and your behavior.


When you talk to a prospective therapist, tell her or him that you have problems with anger that you want to work on, and ask about his or her approach to anger management. Make sure this isn’t only a course of action designed to “put you in touch with your feelings and express them”—that may be precisely what your problem is. With counseling, psychologists say, a highly angry person can move closer to a middle range of anger in about 8 to 10 weeks, depending on the circumstances and the techniques used.


SMILE PEOPLE !!! 🙂 🙂 🙂 🙂








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HOT Summer, Makes our body to loose its energy and glucose and raises temperature. IN summer we face many problems like sunstroke, dehydration, Excessive heat and sweating, Skin allergies, acne, acidity etc. So some home remedies to make you body refresh and normal even in this hot temperatures.


Should drink at least 2 lit water every day. Never let your throat dry.



Juices of watery fruits like watermelon, Mosambi,

Orange, pineapple should be taken in a day.



Lassi(With sugar and rose petals) is good cooling liquid in summer. That cools body saves form sunstroke.



Mint water or herbal tea are the good drinks in summer

that hydrate your body.


Food with sweet, bitter are good in summer than      sour salty or spicy.

Diet should include more fruits.    Its good to use spices like mint, fennela, anise,  cardamom while preparing recipes.




Bathing with neem flavored water saves your skin

from sun burn burns and allergies.




Skin tanning in summer can be removes by applying  watermelon juice .





Yoga asanas has the power to cool your body, Shitali Pranyama breathing exercise that lower the body temperatures.

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Skin care….

As skin varies from normal, oily, dry and combination of both,its better to determine the skin type before taking your initial step for skin care or you can also consult a good dermatologist. For quick results go for
home made herbal remedies (no side effects).


Fenugreek seeds – A good anti-inflammatory & anti-oxidant herb. It helps to cure many skin diseases like pain, redness, swelling, sunburns & boils. Put a teaspoon of fenugreek seeds in water. Allow it to boil until it steep down. Now cool it and add sugar or honey.Drink this twice a day as it removes waste material accumulated in skin.

A paste of fenugreek seeds boiled in water & grinded to paste can heal the wounds or cuts.

Cucumber – Apply cucumber juice on face for clear skin and raw potatoes slice on face to remove black spots.

Curd – Mix curd(1tsp) & honey(2 drops) well & apply it on face. Leave it for 30min and wash it with cold water.

Mixture of honey,lemon juice & vegetable oil Apply it on face to make the skin glow & gives good moisture for dry skin.


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….”miss u”

My tears keep on rolling

I regret my feeling

Not knowing what to do next

I sit on my couch

Weeping over n over

Remembering the day i messed up

Knowing your pain

I moved on my way…

I realized my err later

Longing for your love

I wait for the moment of togetherness

Knowing it might not help anymore

As u are into a new bond

And i dont want to disturb u baby…

I still spend my nights crying

And my days thinking of u…

I thank lord for teaching me

The worth of ur love…

I live in dreams

Of our past…

I still love u baby…

And missing u than ever…

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1. Apples (Can reduce risk up to 50%)
Research in Netherlands has shown that the phytochemicals in apples could help cut the risk of death from heart disease or stroke in half. Drinking 12 ounces of apple juice or eating two whole apples a day is beneficial.

2. Berries Berries like strawberries and cranberries are rich in antioxidants, which reduce the risk of heart disease.

3. Onions (Can reduce risk up to 25%)
Eat half a raw onion a day raises HDL (good) cholesterol an average of 25 percent in most people with cholesterol problems.

4. Legumes/Beans (Can reduce risk up to 30%)
The fiber, protein and other compounds present in legumes, lentils and beans can reduce cholesterol, blood clotting and improve blood-vessel function. These are also a great source of folate, which keeps homocysteine levels (an indicator of heart trouble), in check. One serving of dried beans/legumes a day can reduce cholesterol by up to 10%.
For lentil/legumes/beans recipes, go to lentil/legumes/beans recipes.

5. Oats (Can reduce risk up to 29%)
Oats contain beta-glucans, a soluble fiber. Eating about one-cup of cooked oatmeal a day significantly decreases blood cholesterol levels. For cholesterol reducing recipes containing oats, go to Cholesterol lowering recipes.

6. Nuts – Pistachios & Walnuts
Eating 67 grams of nuts, including in-shell pistachios, can significantly lower total and LDL cholesterol levels by upto 5 and 7% respectively and triglycerides by upto 10%, according to a study reported in the Archives of Internal Medicine in May 2010.
“In-shell pistachios are good for lowering cholesterol & triglycerides, improve blood vessel function, blood sugar control, act as potent antioxidant and offer weight management benefits, all of which are important for improving heart health,” according to Martin Yadrick, immediate past-president of the American Dietetic Association.
Walnuts (Can reduce risk up to 45%)
Walnuts contain omega 3 fatty acids, which lowers cholesterol and prevents blood clots. Eating walnuts can decrease your total cholesterol level by 12% and LDL cholesterol level by 16%.

Peanuts (Ground nuts)
Peanut contain vitamin E, a powerful antioxidant that is shown to significantly reduce the risk of cardiovascular diseases and cancer. Peanut has high bioflavonoid resveratrol which helps improve blood flow in the brain by about 30%, thus reducing the risk of stroke. Adding even small amounts of peanut products to the diet can reduce LDL cholesterol by 14%.

7. Olive Oil, Canola Oil (Can reduce risk up to 40%)
Of all cooking oils, olive oil contains the largest proportion (77%) of monounsaturated fat and has powerful antioxidants, which lowers LDL cholesterol without affecting HDL levels. Go to Best Cooking Oil.

8. Psyllium Husk for High Cholesterol
3g to 12g soluble fiber from psyllium seed husk when included as part of a diet low in saturated fat and cholesterol may reduce total cholesterol and LDL levels.

9. Vegetables Green leafy vegetables like spinach, fenugreek – methi and broccoli are foods rich in iron, magnesium, calcium and antioxidants that protect our heart against cholesterol.

10. Herbs for lowering cholesterol
Green tea, Terminalia, Arjuna, Rauwolfia serpentine, Sida Cordifolia and Digitalis Pupurea are heart friendly herbs. These herbs can be taken in the form of tea.

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காதல் !!!

வான மஹா ராஜனுக்கும்
மேக இளவரசிக்கும்
உலகமே கொண்டாடி மகிழ்கிறது
அந்தி சாயும் நேரம்
பல வர்ணங்களும் பூசி…

இருவருக்கும் இடையே ஒரு நாள்
ஊடல் ஏற்பட்டது…
மேக இளவரசி அழுதால்…
அடை மழை அடித்தது…
மஹா ராஜன் சமாதானம் செய்தான்
சிலென்ற மென் காற்று வீசியது…

இது போலவே…
காதல் வரும் பாதையும் தெரிவது இல்லை
நம்முள் ஏற்படும் பல நூறு மாற்றங்களும் புரிவது இல்லை
அவற்றின் விளைவுகளும் விடைகளும் மட்டும்
நம்மை அறியாமல் அனைவரும் அறிந்துவிடுகின்றார்கள் !!!

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Depression Test !!!

Q: Do you feel sad or irritable? 


Q: Have you lost interest in activities once enjoyed? 


Q: Have you experienced changes in weight or appetite? 


Q: Have you experienced changes in sleeping pattern? 


Q: Do you have feelings of guilt? 


Q: Are you unable to concentrate, remember things, or make decisions? 


Q: Have you experienced fatigue or loss of energy? 


Q: Have you experienced restlessness or decreased activity noticed by others? 


Q: Do you feel hopeless, or worthless? 


Q: Have you had thoughts of suicide or death? 


According to The National Mental Health Association, 5 or more yes answers indicates that you may be suffering from clinical depression. This test cannot substitute for a visit to a mental health professional. It is meant only to give you an idea where to start a dialogue with your healthcare provider.

Try to visit a psychiatrist near your area for a better results. Depression is not a big issue to get worried. Start your health check right now and increase your life longer. Never worry for what is gone ! Live the moment and treasure each second life offers you !

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